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These past few days, I have found myself reflecting on the nature of human relationships, particularly how our relationships serve us or fulfil a particular purpose. Whether you like it or not this is a sentiment that resonates deeply with many of us, as we navigate the complexities of life and the relationships that define it.

Recently, I stumbled upon a video on social media that added a new layer to my thoughts. In the video, a popular comedian explored the often-asked question, “What do you bring to the table?” He broke it down beyond the usual financial implications, urging viewers to consider the non-financial contributions that are just as crucial in any relationship.

The comedian shared a compelling example: A man was arrested one day, and his partner, without hesitation, made two or three phone calls. Within hours, the man was released. It wasn’t the money that secured his freedom, but rather the connections and influence that his partner possessed. For the comedian, this was a powerful illustration of what the partner brought to the table—a network of support and resources that went far beyond financial contributions.

The above story struck a chord with me. It reminds me that what we bring to relationships often transcends the tangible. Yes, financial stability is important, but there’s so much more to consider; emotional support, shared values, social connections, and the ability to navigate challenges together. These non-financial attributes often form the bedrock of a strong, resilient relationship.

Yet, acknowledging these contributions can be difficult, especially in a world that frequently measures worth in monetary terms. It’s easy to overlook the significance of emotional labour, the value of a supportive network, or the strength found in someone who simply understands and believes in you. But these are the things that often make the difference in times of need, just as in the story shared by the comedian.

As I ponder these thoughts, I’m reminded of the importance of recognising and appreciating the full spectrum of what we and others bring to the table in our relationships. It’s not just about what’s visible or measurable in financial terms; it’s about the intangible qualities that enrich our lives and help us grow.

For some of us, we are shy to talk discuss this with people we are in relationships and for some, it could be a deal breaker when it is not clear between the parties involved. I do feel that in my relationships, if I do not know what ‘role’ I am playing in your life, there is a likelihood that I will not fulfil that role. I try to define my friendships and provide that clarity to the parties involved.

In a world where we are often pressured to evaluate our worth in material terms, let us not forget to value the connections, support, and love that truly sustain us. After all, these are the things that can make all the difference when life’s challenges arise.

Cheers.