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When I decided to go on the Smart life trip sometime last year, I had a change of perception of life and I began to see and talk differently. I became a positive thinker and I loved it all the way. Sometimes I close my eyes and all I see is a very peaceful and loving place filled with very happy people and lots of food (I just think that there’s a thin line between anger and hunger. lol).

To understand the life of a smartie and why they act the way they do, you’ll have to know that they do things differently and here are 5 things they do differently.

Letting it go: If you’ve ever heard me speak about personal issues, you’ll know my three favourite words are “let it go”. This is because no one deserves to carry a mountain load of pain around. To that person who has hurt you; back stabbers whatever you call them-let it go. To that friend you entrusted your money with and hasn’t paid back the loan-let it go. To the Ex, the one you still dream of-let it go. the more time you spend on a matter that isn’t worth the stress and still yet, weighing you down and causing unnecessary high blood pressure, the less productive you’ll be and less inspired you’ll be in achieving your life’s goals. If you are not welcome in someone’s space, its best not to hang around. Go back to your happy space.

Be intentionally positive: Stop focusing on the negative and focus on the positive. Complaints about things around us or about people will only add pressure to our small and fragile hearts and prevent us from seeing the beautiful things that God has kept for you his child. There’s something beautiful about being grateful; you feel lighter and peaceful. Even when you are in a nerve wrecking situation, be intentionally positive. Focus on the good side and leave the devil to worry about the other side.

Assume the best in people: Listen people! You call a bestie thrice in one day and bestie did not call back, don’t imagine things. Imagining things will only create unnecessary panic and heartache in the relationship. Not every every missed call means that the person does not want to speak with you. Assuming the best situation keeps you free from unnecessary assumptions and away from problems. Assume the best in people until proven otherwise.

Make better life choices and own them: Growing up, I learnt to make better life choices and if I end up in a bad situation, I blame no other person except myself. And so, over the years, I take responsibility for every action or inaction. Being the victim allows one to be lazy. For instance, if you are constantly stressed out, feeling you are not where you want to be, the only person who could change the situation is you. So take a look at that yourself in the mirror and say to you “I make my choices and I am responsible for my choices.

Take away Fear: Over the years as a development worker, I have had to make presentations to small or big audiences and every time is always like my first time. I fear that I would stumble on my words, that the floor would open and swallow me, I might say things in my local language and people would tear up or maybe things would not just go right. Often times, I have found myself drawing strength from what I want my future to me; a better person. And the only I can be better is to keep doing better at what I do and then I just focus on my bright and beautiful future.

Focusing on what could go right and not on what could go wrong makes everything easier and better. Fear will only take away beautiful opportunities from you and then you loose grip of what really matters and in the end, what is good for you.

Cheers.