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I find it hard to ask myself or other people around me questions that I cannot answer or I do not have answers to. The big question here is “do you actually love your body?”. My answer would be a ‘yes’ and I assume that less than 10 percent of women may not answer yes.

Truth be told we all have parts of our bodies that we do not like. Too thin, too flat ass, flat nose, christian mother arms, too short, too dark, small boobs, knocked knees and the list goes on even those parts of the body that only ourselves can see.

I once asked myself “what if we had the right to choose our bodies?”. There would be the struggle for perfection and then maybe we will never get satisfied of changing body parts to fit our desires and wants. Our sense of how we see ourselves affects our confidence and self esteem. The more comfortable we are with our bodies, the more confident we will be.

When I was younger, family members would say “you better eat well and put on weight so that when you tie wrapper (a piece of clothing tied around the waist usually worn by women) it would look good on you”. In the past, women who looked plump or fat would be said to be receiving lots of love and care from their husbands and the skinny ones were suffering. But then things changed………

At some point in my life, I struggled with thoughts that people would not love the skinny me and I resorted to drinking Eggovin and Complan. These I tried once or twice and kicked the idea….I love my body and why would I just want to please people. Interestingly, my elder sister struggled with same.

After two kids, my weight increased drastically. I had put on so much weight that I I had to change my entire wardrobe and would only just look at my fat face while dressing up. My attitude towards my body started changing once I clocked 30. I spoke to myself several times to just “love my body and accept myself” but to be honest, how easy is it?

It is not a fat or slim thing. I know many slim young women who are not proud of how they look. We look in the mirror and we are critical of what we see. We don’t always see that beauty that we really want and that makes us doubt what we actually look like…

I have come to believe that we should just pretend to love our bodies and accept what we see in the mirror. Accepting one’s insecurities is the first step to regaining body confidence. Love what we see see and just be happy! I think that happiness and contentment reflects on the outside and magically makes imperfections perfect.

Let us inspire our daughters and women coming after us that beauty must be inside as well as on the outside.

Ciao!